The second component of self-love is self.
“Who am I ? ” is, I believe, one of the most crucial questions every individual asks themselves. The way you answer that question will inevitably affect how you see yourself and how you love yourself.
Many have issues with self-love because they define themselves according to what happened to them in the past, the mistakes they made, how people view them and how social media sees them.
” I am a victim because of what happened to me as a child “, “I didn’t go to university so I am a failure”, “I never get anything done right, so I am stupid”, ” I am too skinny, too fat, too tall, too short, I am not beautiful”, “I don’t have a car or a corporate job so I am not a real man”.
All of these are not true. The only person who can define you is the one who created you. He knows you inside out and better than anyone could. (Psalms 139:13-16 Message Translation). No one can know a phone better than its’ manufacturer. Likewise, no one can know you better than God does, because He created you. You can trust what He says about you because He isn’t a man to lie (Numbers 23:19 New Living Translation).
So then what does He say about you? Who does He say you are?
You are “wonderfully and fearfully made …” (Psalms 139:14), you are a child of God (Romans 8:17). You are chosen, royal and special (1 Peter 2:9, Amplified Bible, Classic Edition). You are beautiful, unique, precious, not because of anything you’ve done, but because you are from God, you hail from Him. Therefore you have the same nature and origin as Him. (Genesis 1:26). You are worthy of life and love because Jesus died for you (John 3:16), and still would have died for you even if you were the only person on earth.
You may say, “Okay all of this may be true but I still have a past, it still exists…”. God says that doesn’t matter because that past you claim to have, actually doesn’t exist anymore. From the moment you gave your heart to Christ, everything that happened to you or that you may have done before then doesn’t exist, it’s off the records. ” This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” (2 Corinthians 5:17 New Living Translation).
Knowing this, you have to make the conscious decision to accept what God says about you as The Only Truth, your truth. Let The Word define you. That makes every other definition of who you are, that contradicts The Word of God, a lie.
Now you can boldly say: “I am beautiful because I am made by God. I love me because God loves me and I am worth loving. I like and appreciate myself because God delights in me, He is happy when He thinks about me.”